How to Move Goals of Healing from Trauma into Results!
Tired of feeling like your Trauma has the upper hand? Want to function better in day-to-day activities? Decrease the constant thoughts of your trauma, even after years have passed? Will I ever be happy again? Will the nightmares stop? Do you genuinely want to learn how to defeat feeling the aftermath of your trauma an heal so that you feel whole and complete? I can help you achieve this goal. That is what we seek when looking for help. We want and have a goal in mind and want someone to give us how our goal can be achieved.
The biggest question a client has for me, who experienced trauma, is “how do I get to a place of security and happiness again.” You begin by learning what has happened to you and allowing yourself to be where you are at that moment in time. In order to begin healing from the aftermath of trauma you must first be out of the traumatic situation. I would first ensure you are stable and safe. You must feel safe in order to begin changing your fear.
A trauma specialist/coach, such as myself, helps you understand what is occurring to your brain, body and emotions. You must first understand why your fear is so engraved within your brain. In the psychological world we call this “trauma brain.” People who experience trauma, even years later, can experience setbacks and return to “trauma brain” thinking. Trauma recovery is achievable, but it is not uncommon to have triggers that may bring back memories or traumatic events. Sounds, smells, places and other triggers can easily create toxic memories. I can provide tools and coping strategies to conquer these triggers as they appear in your life.
Recovery from trauma is an individual process and will look different for everyone. Anyone that tells you that there is an exact formula to recovery, is misleading you. You want Results! You want to feel human again! I can help you find your own unique ability to heal. Healing is different for everyone because it depends on an individual’s beliefs and perceptions, level of coping and resiliency, support system, and external factors that were present before the trauma.
As your mental health consultant and trauma coach, I help guide you, educate you and develop along side you, your individualized TREP plan. TREP stands for Trauma Recovery Empowerment Profile. TREP is much like a toolbox. When you work on a car or even around the house you use different tools for different projects. As your trauma coach/ mental health consultant I will use TREP to help you develop coping strategies or tools to heal from past trauma, recognize red flags to avoid future trauma and or deal with trauma currently occurring in your life.
Recovery is significantly important when healing from trauma. One of the Key factors is to know that you will not forget the trauma and you do not want to. Remembering helps avoid future traumatic events and keeps you in recovery. Recovery from trauma involves the ability to successfully live in the present without being overwhelmed by thoughts and feelings from the past. Recovery places the traumatic event behind you so that you can return to joyfully living. Trauma recovery should always be viewed as a process that is worked through over time and in intentional stages.
Stages of Recovery
Stage 1- Safety, Stabilization and overcoming dysregulation.
Stage 2- Remembrance, Mourning, and coming to terms with Traumatic Memories.
Stage 3- Reconnection and Integration
Stage 4- Posttraumatic Growth
There are also “Trauma Types” in which I can help you define what specific “trauma type” you are. There are four basic survival strategies and defense styles that keep us in survival mode to stay above water with the trauma. They are Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn. Whatever category you may belong to will determine a different coping strategy formulation. Many times, I develop individualized, “out of the box” coping strategies because as I said before, not every pill helps everyone and not every coping strategy for trauma will work for everyone either.
The first level of recovery to reach your healing of Trauma is Cognitive Healing. This involves healing the damage that trauma destroyed within your thoughts and beliefs about yourselves. This is what I referred to above as “trauma brain.”
Second level of recovery that I will help with is known as “shrinking the critic.” This is where from childhood or the beginning of a traumatic relationship the superego gets stuck working overtime to achieve the impossible. The mind with this belief becomes imprisoned by a jailer who will accept nothing but perfection and when this does not occur self-criticism runs non-stop. I can educate my client on Trauma recovery empowerment tools to stop this line of thinking.
Third level is “the developmentally arrested healthy ego.” When time progresses, the critic becomes more like the survivor’s identity. The superego forms into a totalitarian critic that takes over the development of a healthy ego. To clarify this, the brain begins to think negative things will happen all the time and will begin to only see the bad that could occur.
Fourth level is psychoeducation and cognitive healing. All to often, people who have experienced significant amount of trauma base your decisions on fear of getting in trouble or being abandoned, rather than in principles of having a meaningful and equitable interaction with the world.
There are other levels as follows: Mindfulness, Emotional Healing, Recovering the Emotional Nature, Emotional Intelligence (Also knows as EQ), Toxic Shame and Soul Murder, grieving as emotional intelligence, Grieving and verbal ventilation, spiritual healing, gratitude and good enough parenting, somatic healing, somatic self-help, The role of medication, Self-medication, and working with food issues. Some or all of these may be part of your individualized plan.
The beginning of trauma recovery will begin with psychoeducation and concentrate highly on another’s wisdom such as: Mental health professionals, trauma coaches, teachers, friends and clergy. I will begin to teach you more about trauma and why you feel, act, think and function. There are many other ways to seek results, but speaking to a specialist, as myself can help you determine what road is best taken for your individual needs.
I can help by working with you, moving through these stages, and developing a trauma recovery plan individualized for your specific lifestyle, personality, family, spiritual needs, physical needs, emotional needs, professional and work related needs and other parts of your life your trauma effects because others overlook individualizing client’s trauma recovery plan.
It is possible to fully recover from the effects of trauma and live a meaningful and rewarding live. I want to again clarify, Recovery does not constitute a complete absence of thoughts or feelings regarding your traumatic event, but rather it is the ability to place the event in proper perspective and successful rise above, so the traumatic event no longer controls your emotions or your life.
Trauma recovery is a process, and everyone heals at different rates and times. You also may find yourself needing to form a relapse plan in which as time passes may need to be revised.
Trauma becomes an addiction and not on purpose. The trauma brain creates a cycle that continues a person with trauma to seek and find people, places, and situations that will compound their trauma and create new traumatic experiences. Therefore, a relapse prevention plan and defeating “trauma brain” are significantly important to work on. You can live and fully recover and live a meaningful life. Take your first step and reach out for help by Clicking Here for Your FREE/NO COST Consult and Begin Creating the Life You Love.